I never started this blog expecting many followers, I simply wanted to have a convenient place to share what the kids were doing, babble a little, and maybe keep handy links and writing I often share by request.
And yet when my followers jumped to an even 10 I thought it was the niftiest thing since sliced bread! And then the other day when on my way to read the few blogs I follow I found it had dropped to 9. I was idiotically saddened.
I know the person who dropped me did not mean any harm. Maybe they simply needed to save time in their day and I wasn't high on the priority list. Maybe they discovered I didn't follow them and figured there was no need to follow me. (Maybe I followed them for a time and dropped them in a little online decluttering.) Maybe after following from one decent post they discovered that is about all I ever had. Really there is no reason to feel following someone in a blog is a lifelong commitment. (speaking of which for all I know the dumpee could be umm, well less than alive)
Whomever it was I bear them no ill will.
But still, I got dumped! For the first time in...well not that long I guess. There are a few folk who made choices away from my 'stuff' girl scouts, co-op, church, whatever. And I felt dumped. The first time it hurt quite a bit, but as more scouts float in and out, I am getting used to it.
It is kinda silly and strange to feel hurt by such a simple choice in someone else's life.
With each of these groups, I want to know why folk would leave so I can try to improve. (after all I am not putting in all this work in just to see them fold from too few members) Since there are no real strings, I don't get to do an exit interview to try and determine just what wasn't working. Even if I did, folk may not always feel comfortable giving me their full reasons. And to tell the truth, they may not know their full reasons.
For this blog on the other hand, it isn't going anywhere from lack of followers, just little old me babbling away whenever I feel like it. Course if the 9 of you left have any opinions on what you actually want to read on, feel free to tell me. Half the posts are thoughts in response to folks IRL questions anyway.
Goodbye 10th follower, you will be missed.
It is their loss honey
ReplyDeleteI am really LOLing because I experience that both rationally and irrationally frequently. The silliest one in recent memory is my HomeschoolCharlotte page on Facebook. I told myself that I wasn't really into seeing how many people "liked" the page until one day the number DROPPED instead of going up. You would have thought someone just ate my last bit of chocolate. Well actually, not quite similar because that can make me just plain mad. But I was sad, hurt, all that and like C'mon, you are kidding me, right?
ReplyDeleteI long ago made sure that I did NOT get the notices about when someone leaves my homeschool list. Yeah, maybe I would like to know why but it is definitely not worth all that negative energy. I have gotten a little more grown up about it but it still, you knows, stings. Even though I know that there are about a gazillion good reasons that have nothing whatsoever to do with my worthiness. I have decided there is a part of it that is not amenable to logic.
Exactly Karen :) I should figure out how to hide the followers button!
ReplyDeleteNo matter how many followers you have, it always makes you a little sad to see the number drop, even though you know they could be leaving for any number of reasons, and it's probably not personal - it always feels that way.
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