Life skills I can't seem to teach

I have a todo list a mile long, and in general when I am awake one part of my brain is constantly checking the list, updating it with new items, prioritizing items, re-prioritizing, and sometimes even checking items off the list.

I have noticed, no one else in my family has this list.

While I wake up knowing that, among other things, I need to do laundry and dishes -because I always need to do laundry and dishes, my family simply doesn't.  The closest they come is asking 'what do I need to do'.

OK I know I am supposed to be eternally grateful that they asked what needed done, but really think about it.  When I am knee deep in dirty laundry, with a couch stacked to the ceiling of clean clothes needing folded and put away, dishes crowding out every available counter space, and clutter drifting to the floor from every other flat surface - do you actually have to ask what needs done?

Why is it that some people can immediately see a problem and start to work on it, while others can barely recognize a problem, much less know where to start.

In a way it is one of those 'walk the line' problems.  It is perfectly possible that jumping in and getting started will cost time in the long run.  I have often noticed that things would run more efficiently if I changed up the order just a smidgen.  (run the washer before the dishwasher, that way I can switch laundry before we go to the pool/park Clean the bathroom while hanging around for Little One or Baby Girl to use the potty, if you are going to be in the bathroom anyway, make it count)

On the other hand spending all day trying to find the perfect path through the most important items on the todo list will more than likely mean I miss out on hours of actually working.

So far I haven't taught even one of the children to see a problem - fix a problem.  Instead they are all more than willing to step over the dirty laundry, kick the toys to one side, or even fetch a mug when the cups are all dirty.
I could be glad they will do whatever it takes to overcome, but mostly I get frustrated at them for never stepping up and working when you can so easily see what help is needed.